Over the last few months, I've noticed some things on #Mastodon that have been affecting me personally even if I'm not involved.

If I see a post's comments, and the OP calls out some posts and still manages to have a respectful conversation with those people and resolve the matter, I think the OP is a mature person.

But if the OP seemingly calls out various comments she thinks are "tangential" or "not contributing" correctly enough to her liking or policing what replies are relevant to the conversation or not (even if they actually are), I either assume that the OP is gatekeeping or just being dismissive and exclusionary, especially if the commenter doesn't appear to have any bad intentions or vibes. I may eventually end up muting the OP if there is a known pattern of this in a way that is more unconstructive than not.

I base this on how they write using specific keywords, phrases, implied emotion, etc. Not arbitrary biases or prejudices.

Anyway, I find it weird some people complain about tone policing from others but somehow their own version of conversational policing is OK.

I wonder if I am being too overly sensitive about this?

Am I alone?

#Fediverse #AskFedi #ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmm #SocialMedia #Policing