@evan Because you haven't seen them doesn't mean they aren't out their in abundance. Doing simple user research you quickly find this model is really problematic for people thinking they were private, it is an amazing tool for stalkers to take advantage of and oh they do. The stories are abundant and can be brutal.

Following bad practices and putting people at risk isn't great. People are looking for a better social platform that has their wishes upheld, not another that breaks them.

@vanderwal show me the data.

@vanderwal

Your condescension is unearned.

@evan It isn't intended as condescension. The common saying of "you can't know until you know" applies. Until you run across what you can unsee or unthink it isn't a possibility.

The Kathy Sierra debacle that was the final push that got Twitter to have their private accounts in the manner the put in place (as a stop gap) was a brutal wake-up call for many. The frailty of that system also was problematic and those, like Kathy, ended up leaving in the tens of thousands.

@evan I was a little surprised by the flippant family doesn't complain, to be honest. ;-)

I am saying all of this to help. Please take it as that.

@evan Oh, I could have worded it a bit better. My sinuses are ripped up and hurting, which is not a great time to be at keyboard attached to a social platform.

@vanderwal @evan

if Bob replies to a post by Alice, they are implicitly relinquishing their communication style, in that context, to the communication style of Alice

if they don't want to to do that, they should not reply to Alice

Bob should not be able to hijack Alice's post with their communication style

it is indeed about respect

but you aren't following what is the most respectful thing here

it is disrespectful to Alice that Bob's communication style can hijack Alice's post